These are the same men who refuse to do any of the uncompensated childcare, housework, and emotional labor at home, even when their wives work full time as well. They always have an excuse. When their wives are also working just as many hours outside the home as they are, the excuse is usually some form of weaponized incompetence, i.e. “but she does a better job cleaning the oven; but she has higher standards for the laundry than I do; but the kid prefers her; etc”

I’ve also seen way too many formerly healthy, egalitarian relationships fall into this dynamic the second a kid came into the picture. I’ve seen it happen so many times, often with zero red flags or warnign signs, that it’s one of the reasons I decided it was too risky to have kids at all. I never want to be financially dependent on a partner, but also don’t want to be stuck with the full brunt of uncompensated work at home while I am also working full time outside of the home.