The man was an asshole and gives off incel vibes, but it’s true that there are a lot of women who go on dates with guys they don’t like and don’t even want to see again because they expect to get something out of it. You just admitted yourself that you expect the guy to pay for your coffee or food.

If you want guys to treat you with respect, then have some respect for yourself as a financially independent woman and cover your own costs instead of reinforcing sexist stereotypes about women and money.